Cancer Speaks …

I know it’s been a while since my last post, I am working on something to keep you informed and provoke your perspective on various subjects in life. Thank you to everyone who keeps up with my articles, for the shares, comments, and positive feedback, I am humbled.

Away from that, if you are reading this I am a year older and experienced if not as wise. I had been reflecting on so much for the past month leading up to my birthday. From asking: if I am in the place I wanted to be in life at this age, if my vision board had materialized, if I had the best outcome from life with various decisions I had made, and what is next for me. I choose to share some of my memorable experiences, decipher them, in terms of lessons learned.

My fondest memory from my childhood is how I was literary my mum”s handbag, we would go almost everywhere if not everywhere together. I think that a close upbringing, makes you know and appreciate the time spent with someone. Though when I went to boarding my Dad step in more and for sure we enjoyed each other’s company over the long rides in various places due to school locations and his job description. The memories in those car rides from both of them are forever engraved in my mind. For me, that kind of parent-child relationship has shaped who I am entirely. An upbringing for a first-born is different from that of a last-born, as you can clearly see, making them different in their own way. Being my biggest cheerleaders is a role they both played effortlessly and still do. They never let their relationship scars and handles come between parenting their children, one thing I admired them for. Then I started adulting, maybe earlier than most. Taking up more responsibility at a young age while putting childish ways to bed early enough. The lessons then began. Which I thank God for.

My biggest lesson includes knowing one’s position in other people’s lives. From friends to family you need to know where you are regarded in the ranking. What I mean by this, you may be overworking in your relationships with people. Showing up for them when it counts, being the one who calls in and checks up on them, dropping everything to be there for them when called upon and you don’t feel the same energy. This is a toxic trait my friend, road to self-destruction. So if you are in it, you need to pick up your kindness and dignity and put it somewhere it won’t be stamped on. You may not see it at first but you get tired eventually, I hope you gain sight before being weary. These kinds of relationships with family and friends even delay the manifestation of your goals. Some people will not want to see your breakthrough, the helping hands out here are limited. Few people want to show you the ropes on how to get ahead in careers and businesses. The people who are at the top don’t or can’t elevate you to get there, it’s unfortunate but the truth. The only solution to this is to keep doing you, your destiny helpers will meet you on the way. However, I wish we would learn to support each other more, regardless of blood, moving forward, rising above our humane nature and, live in sisterhood and brotherhood.

Money! Chasing money is exhausting, especially if it’s driven by the wrong motive. Emphasizing the li, that money is everything, that is being sold to us nowadays as young adults. This never-ending phase of adulting will make you do anything to get ahead and the unfortunate part is it is never enough. The lifestyle change or sustenance is what we all want but some things are just not worth it. For that new hair, manicure, destination travel, it is not worth it. Getting caught up in the status quo will get you depressed. Live within your means, this money will never give you peace of mind or true happiness, so some sacrifices to get it is not worth it. On this subject, also be woke on the people who you work with to get that money. Their ulterior motives can be the end of you, they say everyone has a price. The sell-outs and disrespect on these streets are real. There people who will walk over you, intimidate you to make you feel inferior and unworthy. Some people think they are entitled to things because they think without them you won’t get that financial breakthrough, beware of such characters. With money comes responsibility and discipline, draw the line to make sure you don’t become caught up in the cycle of regret. Let your money work towards your goals is one thing I have learned. Clarify the goals and get to work.

Finally, priorities need to be in check. I have learned that most of my relationships that have failed are either it wasn’t my priority or that of the other person. Don’t waste your time on things that are not on your priority list. Be it money, friendships, relationships, even your course in career development, anything that is not on your priority list will only distract you. Be vigilant with this point or you will lose your youth in confusion. This applies in goal setting as well. Don’t bite more than you can chew they tell us, so please listen.

In conclusion, celebrate those small victories since they fuel your next success. With every new year comes bigger responsibilities so style up. From my mirror to yours, you are your hugest competition, just focus on you if you need YOU to make progress. What are some of the lessons have you learned as young adults? Do share in the comment section.🍸