Part 2: What Mama Never Told You.

In case you missed part 1 – https://sippingoncocktails.co.ke/2022/08/25/what-mama-never-told-you/, I got you. If you are already caught up, let’s get straight into it.

3. The world is operating on a faulty balance, but you get what you deserve.

Yap. Life is unfair. Better get used to it, but the good news is, it has its own way of balancing things out. You just have to trust you are on the right path and do what you have to do to (using this phrase loosely) meet your goals. A smooth path is not guaranteed, but you will get to where you are meant to go. Focus on your purpose. This leads to my next exciting point.

4. There is no fixed way of doing things.

Man, the roadmap is determined by you. You decide the route you want to take. You can listen to opinions and pieces of advice, but you have the final say on how you want to go about things. This is a new generational mindset that, trust me, will conflict with older folks. Get the deliverables in life when you are ready to secure them. The timelines and dates to achieve these life deliverables are influenced by your needs, your maturity, your resources, and, more importantly, your goals. So, if you want a family first, then a career later, or children first, then financial freedom later—or vice versa—by all means, get what is yours. Don’t waste your time explaining your paths if you have clearly mapped them to work for you.

5. The definition of success evolves daily.

Your perspective of success changes each time you fail. Your perspective on success changes each time you have new experiences. It even narrows down to the season you are in. You will notice that your definition of success has changed over time, and your life plays an integral role in making sure of this. You are fortunate if you have attained the levels of success you desired in the past and, more importantly, if you are content with the present results.Every now and then, allow yourself to redefine what success looks like to you every now and again.

6. Life is hard.

I know you are all honestly nodding at this. If you didn’t know, now you know. It may probably explain why you never get things right the first time. But this should not be discouraging but somewhat reassuring since it’s universal and everyone experiences that “hardness” at some point. The bad news is that you have to choose the kind of hard you can tolerate. So, when someone tells you that you had it easy, excuse their naiveté and pat yourself on the back, knowing that your (and every) choice comes at a cost and with effort. Don’t bother explaining yourself.

7. Your partner is not your crutch.

This one is it. Yes, I know I don’t talk about this part of my life. That may change. But since I am here, don’t make a crutch out of your partner. Honestly, this is why most “‘ships” fail, especially relationships. Life is already hard enough. Why would you want to make it harder for the person you share your intimate moments with? Let’s define a crutch, anything or anybody that takes up the function of a part that is not fully or partially working. If you allow your partner to hold such a position, I guarantee you, they will pack up and leave. Supporting someone is different from crutching for someone. In particular, if you have a nurturing or caring personality, it may be harder for you to spot such people, but stay clear of them. They will suck the life out of you. Everyone needs to put in the work. The proportion can be discussed among yourselves. Don’t fall into a parenting role in a relationship.