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Today was the first time I felt my hair in two years and two months. As I ran my fingers through it, well, a part of it that is, I could feel the length, its curls, the body had all changed, of course for the better, however, in that 3-minute excitement, I decided to have it ‘locked’ back. Those belittling phrases some of us tell ourselves passed through my mind: I wouldn’t want to destroy a good thing, which was true, natural hair is all great but the work you have to put into it is definitely not my cup of tea, at least for now. So, with my locked hair we stepped out to conquer the world as we always do. I know by now you are wondering where this story is headed, so … there are two key points.

First, it is to officially say that temporary dreadlocks can be undone after a given (long) period if you follow the set rules. This is to calm – school, all the people who are always giving their unsolicited advice on matters they clearly have no clue about. Sounds familiar? We shall revisit this point later.

The other key point is, re-pump the ball and keep playing. Well, this is not a hair review post but, if you want one let me know, I will be glad to do one. Imagine playing with a ball for 2 years and two months and not doing any maintenance on it, you will destroy it and even flatten it. Wear and tear are real. In this scenario, I took three minutes to be in awe of my hair and plan what to do next. This is when as an individual you get the opportune time to reflect, re-energize, celebrate, motivate, reward, recalibrate, strategize and plan. Time to stop and take it all in, after which you decide on what to do next. The latter is the hardest part, I can strongly relate.

One thing I have learned when I was undergoing my transition is that we have been programmed to follow instructions now while forging our own rules and path we still want to be directed, ask those who went before you if there’s hope and how they did it. That is why, if you try to play a game using a familiar playbook you will fail since it is not yours, it is not original. Some of us are too afraid to make mistakes such that they live life too cautiously, such that if they exert a different kind of pressure – deviating the normal, they think life will slip through their fingers. H_E_L_L_O !! Life is for the living so live boldly, I have learned to be comfortable with the unknown – the future but, whatever it is, I know I will be okay. Thus, make decisions confidently, run with them and, be ready to change them if need be, just be in the pilot seat. Dare to dream they say, dream big they emphasize but, I tell you, make them your own.
Now, on the initial point. Life has standard/universal rules those you cannot change, funny thing, it also applies to people. You could be doing everything right but, still want to ensure other people’s opinions are considered. Too many cooks … it is obvious some of you are not enjoying their meal in life. I am not here to tell you who and who is good or bad for your recipe, that you will have to decide on your own.

In conclusion, the time factor in all this is key, a resource we all equally have and, most valuable. When the time is right it all comes together eventually, sow and you will reap – law of nature. Mine, maybe 2-2; yours, well, only time will tell. To get to where I am in life right now, took a while, deserves to be in a book probably. However, of significance has to be the past six years. Mine was six, what is yours?