Need to know … Want to know!

I remember the first time being asked to dance and I replied how I didn’t know how to. His response was quite vivid, “I didn’t ask you if you did, rather if you’d like to …” and it was in this moment I knew what fear meant. It meant passing up the experience not just to live but to live boldly. The fear of making myself look like a fool on the dancefloor could have easily denied me the experience of knowing a thing or two about ballroom dancing. It is all a chance, everything in life, some well-calculated others just a leap of faith. The best way to conquer fear is with faith.

With the many people I meet, who always ask me about myself, I find it hard to answer them without them asking direct questions. Freely sharing information about who I am and what I believe might take me a bit of time, it may be, I lack the sense of trust in people or the constant reintroduction of myself may get a bit monotonous but I strongly side with the revelation made earlier, fear. You will find talking to a stranger may seem easier than a friend. My theory is most of the time the conversation with a stranger is one where you get to listen and understand what they are trying to communicate and understand their perspective on various issues without expecting him or her to like you or your opinions, having nothing at stake. But with a friend you can do the same however at the back of your mind you have to be mindful of what you say around them and their feelings towards certain issues. Walking around eggshells, managing not to break any is our daily routine.

Today I want to answer that question, what do I believe in? What you believe in strongly defines who you are, that goes without saying. I strongly believe in promises, the worth of your word. Ones that last. Promises made; between yourself and a higher being, with each other, they shape our character. There are people whose word doesn’t stand for anything in this life. Unfortunately, they are the same people who want to be part of your life’s journey. Promises are what make us have hope, that they who make them will come through in the end. Fulfilled promises build trust and the vice versa is true. Be it in your personal life, relationships with others, career development, you name it, the aspect of promise comes into play. It is through this belief I have been programmed and the world is accustomed to. However, it has cost us a lot individually and as a whole. What is your word worth?
I believe in destiny, your purpose in life. You either bloom where you are planted or find roots away from home. In it all, find what fulfils you, brings you joy, happiness, peace of mind, and above all has an impact on people around you, is my philosophy. When you find it, live it, and as you do help those who cross your path to finding theirs because one can easily get lost in the world as they search. It is okay not to know what it is, that only helps you discover and learn more of life, be open to it. Even if it means spending the rest of my life by myself, which I’d rather not, but as long as I am happy, then I am content. Would it not be amazing to share your destiny with someone else?

Finally, I believe in love. It is the only that makes all of the rest possible. Love enables you to see beyond human understanding. It may be cliché for most but for me, it is the pedestal of my livelihood. It is through it I am able to be human, get past the bad experiences and, rise above what life throws at me. By loving myself and others enough to be a decent person in society. The world needs more of it since we only know things in part and not fully, according to Paul, making us imperfect. Only love can help us to rise above our imperfection as the world.
In conclusion, I believe in the above and many more, it may not answer what many want to hear but it is part and parcel of what counts when you get to know me. We need to ask the important questions if we really need to know what is behind face value beyond what a profile says about someone. Need to know not want to know! If you resonate with me, what are some of your beliefs?