Colours

A poem-story for anyone who’s ever been “married off” to a future they didn’t RSVP to

The Flight 30.09.2023, 10:45 p.m.

The sky was a cracked eggshell— yolk bleeding over the runway. I carried a suitcase labeled “maybe” and a mother-sentence tucked under my tongue: “Keep your eyes open for opportunities out there.” The audacious girl in seat 23A traded my shadow for a passport stamp. The rational lady in 23B held my shadow’s funeral at 30,000 feet. Between them, I learned how to breathe in two time zones at once.

The Wave

Behind the glass, she waved. Not goodbye— goodbye-to-who-you-were-5-seconds-ago. Her palm was the last page of a book I didn’t know was ending. I thought I’d lost her. Really, I’d lost the me that only fit in her margins.

The Tradition

They called it “married off.” A typical I thought Sounded like a courier service— “We’ll deliver your daughter to destiny by Tuesday.” Gave me a room with echoes for wallpaper. Told me “this is home now” while the locks clicked legacy behind me. I stared at the ‘ring’— a tiny handcuff forged from my parents’ what-if. Joseph in me said: “Store grain. Build.” Esau in me said: “Trade birthright. Run.” Eva in me said: “Rewrite the recipe. Lentils are boring.”

The Syllabus

Opportunities didn’t knock. They slid under my door like rogue postcards: As strangers who became flatmates, As closed doors that forced you to pick the lock to your own skill, As lonely evenings that taught you you’re good company. Every detour was a chapter my mother’s sentence had already footnoted. I left with a suitcase; came back carrying a syllabus written by the world. A soul annotated by loneliness.

The Mirror

One night the bulb flickered— Morse code from the universe’s IT department. In the strobe, I saw her: Eva. Not Joseph. Not Esau. Just a woman holding a pen like a plane ticket, drawing borders around “here be opportunities” and coloring them mine.

The Epilogue

I Keep Erasing. Nostalgia is a thank-you note to the girl who boarded without a roadmap— because she became the map. Tradition is a door. I am the hinge that learned to swing both ways. Religion is the salt. Culture is the pepper. I am the recipe that tastes like leave, leap, linger. And her? She’s still waving— but now it’s through me, not at me. Every time I open my eyes in a new room, I finish her sentence: “Keep your eyes open…” I do. I am the opportunity now.

This is finally it…


I dreamt about her!
I saw her… felt her.
I live for those days.
This may actually qualify as one of my favorite days.
You should have seen me in the morning all excited.


I have not felt such a warm embrace like that. Meeting again, and all I felt was pure joy. It was so surreal. I remember the most part of the dream, but that moment… That alone is the sign I had waited for, the embrace and reassurance that she was still my person. That hug, my oh my, fueled me with the love for the next decade probably, and that smile lit something special in me.


My human nature, of course, took me back to a year ago, and all I remember is laughter and celebrating my long-awaited breakthrough and hers as well. We talked about everything. Funny thing her life seemed more interesting than mine at the time—imagine a seasoned retiree, who never stopped working, had eventful days compared to a young baddie pushing limits in the corporate world. That we have in common is pushing limits. I use ‘have’ because even today as she rests, she is still reminding me to push the limits with the joy that it will all pan out.


I have a lot to share on how grieving the greatest woman in my life has been. What a better way to start than remembering she lives on.


Before the dream interpreters flood the stage and Google tries to explain to me what just happened, I will smile and remember; I felt her, and it lit me up. We met again.


So, for today, I just want to encourage those going through a similar path to lean in. Lean in to those memories, those hopes for the future and what could never be. Feel it all until all that is felt is gratitude and love.


I miss you, mom.