In Awe … Of who you are…

It is known that how your bed looks like when you wake up from your sleep tells a lot of what you are going through in life. I am sure some of you are wondering, how? Well, it is true. No matter how much you think you can power through a tough or trying time, convincing yourself every day you are fine, subconsciously, the weight is felt and manifests in the simplest ways; like how your bed looks like when you wake up from it. Being overwhelmed by life, a routine can do that to you. That is why you need to be very much aware of energy shifts – those small changes, before it grows to a wanting situation.
That’s how I discovered I was going through something just a few weeks ago. There is nothing more terrifying than having that awakening. Thinking everything is fine one minute but in the next, you become consciously aware it is not. To the point, you don’t even actually know what is wrong but for sure all is not okay. It took me a while to figure it out and when I did, to fix or overcome it was the challenge. I will share three guaranteed phases that may help.
First, I like to vent out my problems to ‘my person’- everyone should have one. It is a person who understands you in personality and character such that they know how best to help you. The venting out is done if I am familiar with the problem – what is wrong. Most of the time, I do it to make it known to me what the problem is (taking back the power it took) but also to be able to gauge from an outside party that my concerns are valid – you know, it is not just in your head. At this moment, I just need a listener and demolisher. A listener who will just let me get it out of my system and a demolisher who helps to break down the source/validity of the problem and give possible solutions as we strategize how best to solve the actual issue.
Second, which applies to what I went through – dealing with the unknown. I would tell you soul searching but that doesn’t work for me maybe others; especially when you need a quick fix – duct tape it, how I call it, for things to seamlessly move on compared to rebuilding from the inside out. I tend to be the fixer, one who helps others out with their issues, and somehow in the middle of it, I find out what is my issue and get a fix for it. It is more of fixing yourself through others. Smart, right? Works like a charm, if you have tried it please comment below.
Third, the icing on the cake, real friendships. I know you, you may have heard too much on this from me but it’s true. I am a person who believes a real friend will know when things are not right. If he/she recognizes it, they will try to reassure you that you will figure it out if they can’t help, they will direct you to someone who can help and even go to the extent of appreciating you for things you have done for them or others – giving positive energy, tends to reignite a person to be able to power through such moments. It is the little things for me; the distraction you may need to give you a new perspective, the regular check-in, you name them, they are many. This third phase is what makes the biggest difference in fixing or overcoming your mountain, just knowing you have someone to: work the problem with, cheer you through, and basically just stand by you.
I know there are many more tactics to get through a funk and it is upon you to do the work at the end of the day. Others being there just make it easier. Letting others, our friends, ‘our people’ put our broken pieces together is paramount.
How do you deal with your funks?